This Week in Sex: What People Think About Sex, Love, Porn, and Valentine’s Day
This week, we take a look at some completely unscientific surveys that give us a fun peek into the brains of others this Valentine's Day.
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This week, we take a look at a number of surveys from across the Internet to see what people (allegedly!) think about sex, love, porn, and Valentine’s Day.
Most of these surveys are not at all scientific, nor were the results published in peer-reviewed journals. As such, they are likely not generalizable to either the whole population or that guy you have a crush on. Still, they give us a fun peek into the brains of others. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Don’t Overspend on Valentine’s Gifts—Many People Would Prefer Sex
A survey of 1,200 adults conducted by Chase Blueprint (yes, the credit card company) found that men and women expect their significant other to spend about $240 on their Valentine’s Day gift(s), but in reality the money spent is closer to $98 for men and $71 dollars for women.
Bu it’s worth noting that many men (43 percent) and women (about 21 percent) don’t want a gift at all. In fact, two-thirds of men and 30 percent of women said they’d rather have sex than get a gift.
Or You Could Stay Home and Watch Porn Together?
Cam4, a social media site designed for voyeurs, commissioned a survey of a representative sample of more than 1,000 Americans ages 18 and older and claims the results shatter our notions about who watches pornography and for what reasons.
Over 90 percent of men and 60 percent of women in the survey said they had viewed pornography. Contrary to the myth that “only the lonely need porn,” the survey found that the greatest consumption of porn was among those who had the most partners or were the most sexually active. In fact, 53 percent of participants said they view adult material as a couple.
Many couples also reported that viewing adult videos inspires them to be more creative and try positions and situations found in the videos watched. Is take-out and porn the new Valentine’s Day date of choice?
Most of Us Object to V Day, But Will Celebrate It Anyways
Most Americans don’t buy into Valentine’s Day, and yet many of us are willing to buy for it, according to a survey of 2,000 adults by Internet survey company Toluna QuickSurvey. More than half of respondents (54 percent) referred to the holiday as “corny,” “stupid,” or inspired by Hallmark, and 26 percent said they shun the day altogether.
Still, even some people who think V Day is silly will celebrate. Fifty-five percent of respondents admitted to buying some sort of Valentine’s Day gift—a card (49 percent), candy (34 percent), electronics (11 percent), lingerie (8 percent).
Parents seem to look forward to February 14 far more than others, with 63 percent of them saying they expect some or a lot of romance that day, compared to just 39 percent of single adults. Of course, other people are looking to the romantic day to become parents: One in 25 respondents said they were trying to conceive this Friday.
Sex and Coffee in the Morning, Please
Our next survey comes from the coffee company HiLine Coffee, which makes Nespresso coffee capsules. Its survey asked more than 1,100 U.S. adults what they wanted for Valentine’s Day in the morning and at night. Coffee, sex, and love won the morning, with 43 percent saying they wanted their partner to either initiate sex, bring them coffee and breakfast in bed, or confess their love.
As for nighttime, 52 percent wanted a nice dinner out, but only 19 percent wanted flowers, chocolate, jewelry, a sentimental card, or a gift at all.
The TV-Watching Habits of the Romantically Involved
Finally, a survey conducted by STRATA, a media buying company, finds that most couples like to stay home and watch TV.
The survey asked more than 630 adults who were in a relationship about their TV-watching habits. Most couples (69 percent of married couples and 68 percent of dating couples) seem to think of TV watching as a bonding experience, and 87 percent said choosing what to watch rarely caused conflict. Married couples were more likely to watch different shows—only 28 percent of them said they’d never go into the other room to watch their show, compared to 52 percent of dating couples who said they’d never do that.
When together, couples are most likely to watch dramas (34 percent) and comedies (31 percent) and least likely to watch reality television. The Big Bang Theory, a CBS sitcom, was the show most watched together by couples—it was picked twice as frequently by respondents than the second place show, Modern Family. Tying for third: NCIS and The Walking Dead.
Zombies and pizza on Valentine’s Day, anyone?