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Pregnancy Depression Is Real, And Women Like Me and Bei Bei Shuai Need Help, Not Jail

Robin Marty

If not for the intervention of my own doctor, I could have been Christine Taylor or, even more frightening, Bei Bei Shuai.

On Thursday, May 17th, Rewire and National Advocates for Pregnant Women held a media conference call on the case of Bei Bei Shuai, now in jail for 14 months because her fetus died when, out of desperation with her life circumstances, she attempted suicide by ingesting rat poison. You can listen to experts speaking on the case. Other coverage of Bei Bei Shuai and the jailing of pregnant women for “feticide” can be found here.

When I gave birth to my second child, a little boy, in December of 2010, I was overjoyed. When I found out I was pregnant again in June of 2011, I was terrified. My son was not even 6 months old, I simply could not go through another pregnancy so soon, I didn’t want a third child, and was not willing to raise a baby while pregnant.

My first thought was abortion. My second thought was abortion. Many, many of my thoughts were abortion.

Obviously, I didn’t have one. I’m now the mother of three, and I am happy that in the end I made my choice to have my child. But it took me a very long time to get there.  Although I decided within a matter of weeks that I would not get an abortion, I still was unenthusiastic about my pregnancy. I refused early prenatal care, I ate foods I shouldn’t have eaten, and eventually admitted to myself that I was hoping for a miscarriage.

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I told few people I was pregnant, not wanting to “unexplain” when the pregnancy “went away.” I was ambivalent about caring for myself or the potential baby. When I finally went to see my doctor at about 14 weeks, and there was no heartbeat, I felt relief.

That was when my doctor suggested treating my depression. The medication did have the potential to cause issues with the baby’s heart when taken in the third trimester, he told me. But, he warned, without it, he wasn’t entirely convinced both of us were going to make it there.

I was lucky. With support from my family, a steady income, a healthy (although extremely rough) pregnancy, good health care, and most importantly the guidance of my OB and a prescription in my pocket, I was able to overcome the emotional — and hormonal — issues that sent me into a severe case of pregnancy-induced depression. It’s not uncommon, my doctor told me, especially not for women who’s life circumstances change dramatically in a short amount of time.

Without the intercession of my doctor, I’m not entirely sure where I would be, nor my now nearly four-month-old son. Depression isn’t just the feeling that everything is bleak and insurmountable; it is believing that there is no hope that things can ever be changed.  You aren’t just incapable of happiness or joy in the moment; you believe you will never be capable of it again, and that your life will be just this joyless until you die.

When I read about Bei Bei, when I read about Christine Taylor, I understand their pain to some extent. Like Christine, I understand wanting to confide in someone that I just wasn’t capable of being a mother again, and although I wasn’t willing to end my pregnancy, I wouldn’t feel any sadness if it ended on its own. Like Bei Bei, I understood the weighing of options, wondering how to make it end without endangering anyone around me. 

I had my children and husband to hold on to until my doctor was able to see my pain. Bei Bei didn’t. 

I was allowed to get help. Bei Bei wasn’t.

I have had a chance to recover, to love and be loved by my beautiful family, and to heal.  Bei Bei is endlessly incarcerated, even if she weren’t in the county jail, always a mother in her heart to the little girl she lost and the family that she never got to have.

If feticide laws are enforced when a woman loses her pregnancy during a suicide attempt, we won’t save babies, we will just lose more mothers — women who can live if they are just helped in time.  These laws put a barrier between women who already feel alone and scared and convinced that life can never get better, turning them into criminals for talking about their fears and seeking out the medical or psychological assistance they need.

Free Bei Bei not just by dropping the murder charges against her, but by never allowing such a law to be used against a pregnant women again.

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Anti-Choice Democrats: ‘Open The Big Tent’ for Us

Christine Grimaldi & Ally Boguhn

“Make room for pro-life Democrats and invite pro-life, progressive independents back to the party to focus on the right to parent and ways to help women in crisis or unplanned pregnancies have more choices than abortion,” the group said in a report unveiled to allies at the event, including Democratic National Convention (DNC) delegates and the press.

Democrats for Life of America gathered Wednesday in Philadelphia during the party’s convention to honor Louisiana Gov. John Bel Edwards (D) for his anti-choice viewpoints, and to strategize ways to incorporate their policies into the party.

The group attributed Democratic losses at the state and federal level to the party’s increasing embrace of pro-choice politics. The best way for Democrats to reclaim seats in state houses, governors’ offices, and the U.S. Congress, they charged, is to “open the big tent” to candidates who oppose legal abortion care.

“Make room for pro-life Democrats and invite pro-life, progressive independents back to the party to focus on the right to parent and ways to help women in crisis or unplanned pregnancies have more choices than abortion,” the group said in a report unveiled to allies at the event, including Democratic National Convention (DNC) delegates and the press.

Democrats for Life of America members repeatedly attempted to distance themselves from Republicans, reiterating their support for policies such as Medicaid expansion and paid maternity leave, which they believe could convince people to carry their pregnancies to term.

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Their strategy, however, could have been lifted directly from conservatives’ anti-choice playbook.

The group relies, in part, on data from Marist, a group associated with anti-choice polling, to suggest that many in the party side with them on abortion rights. Executive Director Kristen Day could not explain to Rewire why the group supports a 20-week abortion ban, while Janet Robert, president of the group’s board of directors, trotted out scientifically false claims about fetal pain

Day told Rewire that she is working with pro-choice Democrats, including Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand and Rep. Rosa DeLauro, both from New York, on paid maternity leave. Day said she met with DeLauro the day before the group’s event.

Day identifies with Democrats despite a platform that for the first time embraces the repeal of restrictions for federal funding of abortion care. 

“Those are my people,” she said.

Day claimed to have been “kicked out of the pro-life movement” for supporting the Affordable Care Act. She said Democrats for Life of America is “not opposed to contraception,” though the group filed an amicus brief in U.S. Supreme Court cases on contraception. 

Democrats for Life of America says it has important allies in the U.S. House of Representatives and the U.S. Senate. Sens. Joe Donnelly (IN), Joe Manchin (WV), and Rep. Dan Lipinski (IL), along with former Rep. Bart Stupak (MI), serve on the group’s board of advisors, according to literature distributed at the convention.

Another alleged ally, Sen. Bob Casey (D-PA), came up during Edwards’ speech. Edwards said he had discussed the award, named for Casey’s father, former Pennsylvania Gov. Robert P. Casey, the defendant in the landmark Supreme Court decision, Planned Parenthood v. Casey, which opened up a flood of state-level abortions restrictions as long as those anti-choice policies did not represent an “undue burden.”

“Last night I happened to have the opportunity to speak to Sen. Bob Casey, and I told him … I was in Philadelphia, receiving this award today named after his father,” Edwards said.

The Louisiana governor added that though it may not seem it, there are many more anti-choice Democrats like the two of them who aren’t comfortable coming forward about their views.

“I’m telling you there are many more people out there like us than you might imagine,” Edwards said. “But sometimes it’s easier for those folks who feel like we do on these issues to remain silent because they’re not going to  be questioned, and they’re not going to be receiving any criticism.”

During his speech, Edwards touted the way he has put his views as an anti-choice Democrat into practice in his home state. “I am a proud Democrat, and I am also very proudly pro-life,” Edwards told the small gathering.

Citing his support for Medicaid expansion in Louisiana—which went into effect July 1—Edwards claimed he had run on an otherwise “progressive” platform except for when it came to abortion rights, adding that his policies demonstrate that “there is a difference between being anti-abortion and being pro-life.”

Edwards later made clear that he was disappointed with news that Emily’s List President Stephanie Schriock, whose organization works to elect pro-choice women to office, was being considered to fill the position of party chair in light of Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz’s resignation.

“It wouldn’t” help elect anti-choice politicians to office, said Edwards when asked about it by a reporter. “I don’t want to be overly critical, I don’t know the person, I just know that the signal that would send to the country—and to Democrats such as myself—would just be another step in the opposite direction of being a big tent party [on abortion].” 

Edwards made no secret of his anti-choice viewpoints during his run for governor in 2015. While on the campaign trail, he released a 30-second ad highlighting his wife’s decision not to terminate her pregnancy after a doctor told the couple their daughter would have spina bifida.

He received a 100 percent rating from anti-choice organization Louisiana Right to Life while running for governor, based off a scorecard asking him questions such as, “Do you support the reversal of Roe v. Wade?”

Though the Democratic Party platform and nominee have voiced the party’s support for abortion rights, Edwards has forged ahead with signing numerous pieces of anti-choice legislation into law, including a ban on the commonly used dilation and evacuation (D and E) procedure, and an extension of the state’s abortion care waiting period from 24 hours to 72 hours.

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NARAL President Tells Her Abortion Story at the Democratic National Convention

Ally Boguhn

Though reproductive rights and health have been discussed by both Democratic Party presidential nominee Hillary Clinton and Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-VT) while on the campaign trail, Democrats have come under fire for failing to ask about abortion care during the party’s debates.

Read more of our coverage of the Democratic National Convention here.

Ilyse Hogue, president of NARAL Pro-Choice America, told the story of her abortion on the stage of the Democratic National Convention (DNC) Wednesday evening in Philadelphia.

“Texas women are tough. We approach challenges with clear eyes and full hearts. To succeed in life, all we need are the tools, the trust, and the chance to chart our own path,” Hogue told the crowd on the third night of the party’s convention. “I was fortunate enough to have these things when I found out I was pregnant years ago. I wanted a family, but it was the wrong time.”

“I made the decision that was best for me — to have an abortion — and to get compassionate care at a clinic in my own community,” she continued. “Now, years later, my husband and I are parents to two incredible children.”

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Hogue noted that her experience is similar to those of women nationwide.

“About one in three American women have abortions by the age of 45, and the majority are mothers just trying to take care of the families they already have,” she said. “You see, it’s not as simple as bad girls get abortions and good girls have families. We are the same women at different times in our lives — each making decisions that are the best for us.”

As reported by Yahoo News, “Asked if she was the first to have spoken at a Democratic National Convention about having had an abortion for reasons other than a medical crisis, Hogue replied, ‘As far as I know.'”

Planned Parenthood Federation of America President Cecile Richards on Tuesday night was the first speaker at the DNC in Philadelphia to say the word “abortion” on stage, according to Vox’s Emily Crockett. 

Richards’ use of the word abortion was deliberate, and saying the word helps address the stigma that surrounds it, Planned Parenthood Action Fund’s Vice President of Communication Mary Alice Carter said in an interview with ThinkProgress. 

“When we talk about reproductive health, we talk about the full range of reproductive health, and that includes access to abortion. So we’re very deliberate in saying we stand up for a woman’s right to access an abortion,” Carter said.

“There is so much stigma around abortion and so many people that sit in shame and don’t talk about their abortion, and so it’s very important to have the head of Planned Parenthood say ‘abortion,’ it’s very important for any woman who’s had an abortion to say ‘abortion,’ and it’s important for us to start sharing those stories and start bringing it out of the shadows and recognizing that it’s a normal experience,” she added.

Though reproductive rights and health have been discussed by both Democratic Party presidential nominee Hillary Clinton and Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-VT) while on the campaign trail, Democrats have come under fire for failing to ask about abortion care during the party’s debates. In April, Clinton called out moderators for failing to ask “about a woman’s right to make her own decisions about reproductive health care” over the course of eight debates—though she did not use the term abortion in her condemnation.